Co-Captaining together:In every relationship there is never just one person running the show. If there is get out as soon as possible, because there is no way that relationship is balanced! Think of you and your partner as two Co-Captains on a ship. And as Co-Captains you both make decisions together on how to steer the ship. When making decisions together it actually helps bring you two closer to one another. Whether it’s making decisions on where to travel, what movie to see or even as simple as who cooks and washes the dishes. The point is to make decisions regarding the relationship together. This helps both you and your partner take an active role in the relationship. This way no one feels they are doing all the work or the only one taking the relationship seriously.
Checking the RelationSHIP before you set sail:
Your relationship has to be balanced before the two of you as Co-Captains can set sail. It is important to check in with one another as much as possible and not just letting your relationship stay on cruise control. In fact, letting your relationship run on autopilot or in this sense “auto captain” allows many things fester in the relationship. Now remember checking in with each other does not necessarily need to look like a session at the therapists office .However, what you could do is simply ask how was your partner’s day at work, how are their friends and family doing? Take an active interest in them sharing their lives with you. That is essentially what most relationships truly are, sharing one’s life with one another. And when you take an interest in your partner’s life it almost always gets reciprocated by them taking an interest in you. By making sure both you and they are on the same page helps ensure the boat stays afloat.
Have a lifejacket nearby in case your RelationSHIP gets shipwrecked!:
Now just in case if your boat doesn’t stay afloat or even start to sink, make sure to always stock up on lifejackets! These lifejackets could be outlets the both of you have to express yourself in the event of a disagreement in the relationship (which will happen). These outlets in a most ideal scenario would be people in support of the relationship; maybe in-laws, family members, friends or even other couples you know in whom you both have a close relationship with. A couple you both know or a licensed therapist could help mediate in the event of any disagreement that has surpassed both you and your partners effort to resolve together on your own. And remember, just because as a couple you may experience a heightened conflict does not always mean your ship can’t sail ever again.]]>